Been Gone For A Minute...

Working three jobs, taking a psychology course, making sure I'm all set for my return back to school this fall, and preparing for my three week vacation in France has taken over my life. This vacation is well needed before I start my classes this fall. I am majoring in Nursing, minoring in Biology and Psychology. I was minoring in Spanish as well, but my schedule won't allow it. Studying abroad in Spain would have been lovely. However, after I graduate, visiting Spain will be a gift to myself.

Moving along, I have a strong concern I would like to share with you... sexual activity and morals. I strongly believe that there is a negative correlation between the two. The more you have of one, the less you have of the other.

The strong emotions and burning desire that erupts between two people is enough to draw the two closer or do the complete opposite. Many other things can also result from the sexual encounter...pregnancy, STD, emotional distress, depression, etc. However, I will steer away from these possible results that can be shown publicly and made evident to those who who you know. I want to discuss something that is intangible, learned, and only you know the true foundation...your morals.

I read this article: http://bitchielife.necolebitchie.com/2010/07/your-goodies-arent-the-greatest-gift-you-can-give-a-man/ and it blew my mind!! Please take a few minutes and read it, if your eyes and mind allow you to finish it.
Did you read it? Yes, I can see why a woman would feel this way, especially if she's trying to overcome her feelings towards her generous vagina.

After reading the article, I decided to read the comments. This one stuck out the most:

True I am not my vagina...but who wants a woman who has no walls? noone thats who lol just like i dont want a man who has dicked down half of the united states population. The issue is not how and who you sex, the issue is morals. If you have no morals then you dont mind devaluing your body and giving it so freely. I however have morals and I feel that when you have sex with someone you leave a piece of yourself with them and they leave a piece of themselves with you. How many pieces of you do you want floating around the world? - loveleyladee

By the replies to her comment, clearly I am unfamiliar with what no walls means. However, I completely agree with her when she states that she would not want to be involved with a man who has been promiscuous with almost every woman he runs into. I also would like to add that a good man would not want a woman who does the same (practice promiscuity). This commenter goes on to say and makes it clear that it is not all about numbers, but your morals.

Moral "pertaining to, or concerned with the principles or rules ofright conduct or the distinction between right and wrong;ethical (Dictionary.com)"

Yes, that attribute that some have and others don't, helps determine your self worth. Whether you like it or not, being promiscuous does have an effect on how others view you and how you view yourself. It's important to not engage in acts that will ultimately degrade you and lessen your self-worth. It is easy to distinguish a person that has high self esteem to someone who does not. A woman who has the utmost love and respect for herself, will not allow anyone or anything lessen that. Whether, it's the society/media, man of your dreams, or even your friends that influence your actions that can result in demoralizing you...take control of your inner self; and love and respect yourself. If you don't, then why will the next person? If you do decide to engage in promiscuous activities, I strongly advise practicing safe sex -- always wrap it up...please do not let others or yourself convince you otherwise. Unless, you want to be celibate or abstinent : )


I completely agree with this part of her comment:

 "If you have no morals then you dont mind devaluing your body and giving it so freely. I however have morals and I feel that when you have sex with someone you leave a piece of yourself with them and they leave a piece of themselves with you. How many pieces of you do you want floating around the world?"

No further elaboration is needed, I could not agree with her more! * hand clap *

Once again, I do not knock  what other women do behind closed doors, I just ask that you think before you act.

Is 30 minutes of pleasure... 

worth an unwanted pregnancy, STD, or a lifetime of regret?